We all have it. We all need more of it. But what exactly is Self-Esteem? Those of us who practice the Satir Model of therapy often refer to Virginia Satir’s “Self-Esteem Toolkit” as a way to take care of our self-esteem. I like to describe our self-esteem or soul as a precious “plant” that we must take care of, water, feed, love, etc. Without nourishment, our self-esteem suffers. Using the Self-Esteem Tools often allows us to recognize which areas we need to strengthen – maybe it’s our ability to say “Yes” or “No” and be clear with others…or accessing more courage to enter a tough conversation or event…or taking the time to love ourself & others. Parents often wonder “HOW in the world to help my child improve their self-esteem?” Adolescents often want the same thing…and look at everyone else as having higher self-esteem. We talk about this SO much in therapy! Growing in confidence to be yourself and becoming more comfortable in your own skin takes work! Learning to speak your mind, love others, be courageous, hope & dream, and analyze your options are just a few things we work on using Satir methods in therapy.
Our basic longing to be loved and accepted comes from the God who made us and is crazy about us. Just as we are! If only we could believe it & live like it…how much different would our days be?